There have been countless lists made about what you should not say to your single friends: Are you seeing anyone? Have you tried Bumble? You should meet my cousin, he’s single. It’s not like single people’s only thought is how they can snag themselves a boyfriend or girlfriend. Many are single simply because they want to be. But, there are certain things that single people would definitely like hearing. Things not related to their lack of a partner. At least, when I was single I wanted to hear people say these things.
How are you doing?
When you’re single and living alone, chances are you won’t be having someone to talk to about your day, at least not daily. It can get lonely. So, take time out to check in on your single friends. They don’t expect you to text or call every day but it would be nice if you called them at least once a week. It’s especially helpful when your single friend is sick. Being sick when you’re alone sucks. Have a little chit chat. It would go a long way towards making them feel better.
I’m not kidding. Think about the last time you congratulated someone and the event you were celebrating did not have anything to do with getting engaged, married, or having babies. From the late 20s onwards, all we congratulate people for is relationship milestones. What happens to the person who is not in a relationship?
You can congratulate them about anything from a job promotion to taking care of a sick pet. A simple thought like: “So glad to see your cat is better. You took such great care of him/her” would make people’s day. All people want is an acknowledgement of their little struggles
Why don’t you join us?
Not all single people are uncomfortable with kids. Some really like them. It would be nice if you checked in with them when you’re having a party for your toddler. Parties for kids are also great bonding time for adults.
If you’re doing things and you’re all coupled up, invite your single friends and give them the liberty to bring their own +1 (a potential partner, another single friend, siblings). People like being included in things their friends do.
By TNN Laetitia Bruce Warjri